The “Real World” Excuse and Negativity

by Lee Buford on March 23, 2010

Like many of you, I’m sure, I have found myself rejecting the “free-spirited optimist” at many points along my journey. In fact, I have been guilty of playing the “I’m not negative, I’m a realist” card more times than I care to admit.

That said, I am reading an outstanding book called REWORK, by Jason Fried and David Heinemeier Hansson of 37signals. I plan to spend more time recapping the key points and take-aways in an upcoming post, but I was terribly convicted of my occasional negativism by one key paragraph early in the book.

The second chapter, titled “Ignore the real world,” details the negative banter of those who consistently demean and discourage others with comments such as:

  • That would never work in the real world.
  • No way…that’s impossible.
  • Nobody would want that. That’s not even…
  • Nobody would believe that.
  • That would never work…that’s not realistic.

You get the point. I GOT the point! I’ve said those things myself, and often times in situations where I should’ve been considerably more optimistic and encouraging!

The chapter closes with this paragraph:

The real world isn’t a place, it’s an excuse. It’s justification for not trying. It has nothing to do with you.”

WOW! I love that! And I need to do a better job approaching potential positives in life with that frame of mind.

Granted, the “real world” does exist, and I am not suggesting that any of us blatantly ignore the cold, hard facts in front of us in any given situation. I would, however, agree with the statement above in that, more times than not, we use such rhetoric to justify inaction, laziness, or good old-fashioned stubbornness.

Think about this the next time you are faced with a situation that calls for your response. Consider the possibilities. And more importantly, consider your attitude and approach.

Negativity disguised as realism gets us nowhere!

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Bianka December 4, 2015 at 1:05 am

thanks jo ann.yes, it is kind of a permission space ecrepienxe of self within the hive-like confines of like six others vibrating at tonalities you can recognize as within you and your own, seeing difference as unrecognized sameness?i recently had different ecrepienxes of people playing the voyBom guitar with me in a jamming space, rocking out and being brought into awareness of hearing the same-different polarity within the sounds of the strings and the limited but interesting harmonic choices, and the increasingly compelling rhythm. each was drawn directly in to the non-verbal communicative mode that one could say characterizes real music-making. but without the ten years of practice. (Knowing full well that with ten years of practice of the right kindvirtuosos can be trained, but to what end? only to confirm the algorythm? of success?but were this used by people as a sanctuary from media, alienation and selfishness. what if voyBom is this vibration? of complete new-found confidence for all humans. starting with toning and moving out from there?

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