Six Questions You Should Be Asking

by Lee Buford on November 26, 2011

All of us deal with “coaching” situations on a daily basis. For many it’s in a professional or organizational setting, but at a minimum it occurs daily when dealing with family, friends, and even strangers. To be effective in building relationships and helping others we need to know how to have conversations that build trust, openness, and intimacy. And those conversations begin with the right questions.

Jon Ferguson related the following questions that I think are very helpful. In his original context he’s offered them as six questions to ask when coaching leaders, but I think they’re very helpful for a wide range of situations and I’d encourage you to give them a try.

The six questions…

  1. How are you?
  2. What are you celebrating?
  3. What challenges are you experiencing?
  4. What do you plan to do about those challenges?
  5. How can I help you?
  6. How can I pray for you?

I believe these questions are excellent and are well-suited for a conversation with one of your associates at work or with your 12-year old daughter. I hope you find them helpful.



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Waley December 9, 2015 at 1:57 am

Busted! I try to be relaxed and low-pressure with my small worsihp team. After reading your post, I’m starting to think I might be creating an attitude of laziness. Good stuff to think about.


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