Pastoring Our Own Children – Part One

by Lee Buford on September 21, 2010

Biblical parenting might just be the most intimidating and challenging task before anyone with children. If we are honest with one another, most of us struggle along the way until we find our groove, so to speak, or at least until we reach the point where we feel like our homes exhibit some degree of sanity and normalcy. In far too many cases the ultimate goal of many parents is simply to raise “good kids.”

But God has a different idea in mind…a much higher standard for our roles in His plan for children. He’s not looking for parents who will commit raising “good kids,” but rather parents who will commit to raising godly kids.

He calls us to raise and shepherd the children with which we have been so graciously blessed. And chances are His ideas on biblical parenting look a good bit different than the pictures we are painting in our homes on a daily basis.

5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.     – Deuteronomy 6:5-9 – ESV

God’s plan for the spiritual teaching and godly encouraging of our children clearly begins with YOU and ME (see verse 5). We must, ourselves, be committed to the Word and the following of Christ in our own lives before we can impart the same to our children. And we can rest assured that we will be accountable for our efforts in this area, as scripture confirms God’s chosen role for each of us as parents:

We are to be the primary pastors in the lives of our children.

Pastor? Me? You? Yes!

And as daunting as this may seem to some, God has ordained and commanded this method of family discipleship. And because He has, we can have faith in the fact the He will provide the methods and abilities to do so in all of us…provided we are obedient in seeking to fill the role.

Let me be the first to admit my own failures and inadequacies in this area. I don’t have it all together, and I have not been the pastor to my children that I should have been to this point in their young lives. But that’s okay…that’s why I’m writing on the subject.

The key in all of this is that God has allowed me to see this in my own life, graciously challenging and encouraging me to get on the program, if you will. You may be in a similar place right now. If so, my prayer is that God would provide the same conviction and encouragement for you.

I will be sharing a few thoughts and ideas, a guest post, and a sampling of resources that have been helpful to me and others in Parts Two and Three of this series. My hope is that you would find them encouraging and insightful, and that you would commit to sharing your thoughts, experiences, and resources with others who are on the same journey. I would be grateful, as I know others would, if you would take the time to share them in the comment section below so that others can read and benefit from them.

We are blessed to be parents, and we are blessed to serve a gracious and merciful God who, in spite of our sins and weaknesses, allows us to play such a major role in the godly maturation of our children. Brothers and sisters, to this we are called.

Is this an area of your life in which God has been speaking to you? What are some your thoughts around pastoring your own children for God’s glory?

{ 0 comments… add one now }

Leave a Comment

{ 1 trackback }

Previous post:

Next post: