Choose Your Friends Wisely

by Lee Buford on August 8, 2010

When’s the last time you spent some quality time thinking about your friends? I don’t mean thinking about the fun times you’ve shared hanging out together, but more specifically about the quality of your friendships.

For that matter maybe you should spend some time thinking about the times you’ve shared hanging out together. Where did you go? What did you do? Is this particular friend making you better? Are you making him or her better?

I saw the following on Twitter today…a re-tweet of a John Mayer tweet. Yes, THE John Mayer, the singer with 3.5 million followers:

Now I don’t personally know John Mayer, and perhaps his tweet was meant to be a bit tongue-in-cheek, but I couldn’t DISAGREE more his philosophy. In my opinion, surrounding yourself with like-minded people who agree with you constantly is one of the worst things you can do.

I’ve often heard the following quote: “You are, or will soon become, who you hang around.” The fact of the matter is this…”Choose your friends wisely” is one of the best pieces of advice any of us has ever been given.

Our associations matter a great deal in terms of who and what we are, and who and what we will ultimately become!

Talk to a few people who have strayed down the slippery slope of self-destruction. They will quickly tell you it didn’t happen overnight and they didn’t get there alone. In fact, most such folks who have rebounded and turned the corner will tell you the first thing they had to do was cut ties with some bad associations. It’s simply not optional.

  • Surround yourself with godly people who truly care about you.
  • Surround yourself with friends who are willing to tell you when you’re out of line.
  • Surround yourself with people who are courageous enough to risk your friendship for your health and well-being.

At the end of the day these associations are more valuable than you or I even realize. Choose them wisely.

Are your associations good and beneficial…for you and for them? Do you have some with which you need to sever ties?

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